Be Cringe, Be Free: The Psychology of Refusing to Perform
Be Cringe, Be Free: Authenticity, Shame, and the Cost of Performing the Self
"Be cringe, be free" sounds like a joke about dancing badly in public. Dr. Leslie Poston makes the case that it's actually a question psychology has been thinking about for decades: why does being yourself in public feel so dangerous, and can dropping the performance actually change anything beyond your own life? This episode draws on Goffman's front stage and back stage selves, Winnicott's true self and false self, Brehm's reactance theory, Gilbert's social rank theory, Tangney's research on shame and guilt, Gilovich's spotlight effect, Meyer's minority stress theory, Keltner's work on embarrassment, and Deci, Ryan, and Neff on autonomy and self-compassion, to ask what it actually costs to keep performing, and what it takes to stop.
00:00 Be Cringe Be Free
01:07 Life as Theater
02:48 True vs False Self
04:37 Reactance and Pushback
06:14 Where Cringe Fear Comes From
08:04 Spotlight Effect Reality Check
09:03 Minority Stress and Real Risk
10:23 Embarrassment vs Defiance
11:57 Autonomy and Self Compassion
13:57 Freedom as Collective Change
14:33 Outro and Research Invite
LINK TO PARTICIPATE IN DR. POSTON'S NEXT RESEARCH STUDY: https://bit.ly/4fCx52d (linked form will deactivate when study is full)
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"Be cringe, be free" sounds like a joke about dancing badly in public. Dr. Leslie Poston makes the case that it's actually a question psychology has been thinking about for decades: why does being yourself in public feel so dangerous, and can dropping the performance actually change anything beyond your own life? This episode draws on Goffman's front stage and back stage selves, Winnicott's true self and false self, Brehm's reactance theory, Gilbert's social rank theory, Tangney's research on shame and guilt, Gilovich's spotlight effect, Meyer's minority stress theory, Keltner's work on embarrassment, and Deci, Ryan, and Neff on autonomy and self-compassion, to ask what it actually costs to keep performing, and what it takes to stop.
00:00 Be Cringe Be Free
01:07 Life as Theater
02:48 True vs False Self
04:37 Reactance and Pushback
06:14 Where Cringe Fear Comes From
08:04 Spotlight Effect Reality Check
09:03 Minority Stress and Real Risk
10:23 Embarrassment vs Defiance
11:57 Autonomy and Self Compassion
13:57 Freedom as Collective Change
14:33 Outro and Research Invite
LINK TO PARTICIPATE IN DR. POSTON'S NEXT RESEARCH STUDY: https://bit.ly/4fCx52d (linked form will deactivate when study is full)
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